Why Do We Do This?


Ava Stathakis, Public Relations/ Marketing Manager

It’s just out of habit. It’s something I’ve done my entire life and I’m not happy about it. It’s just so hard to stop.

All through my life, I’ve compared myself to others or have been compared to others.  To be completely honest, it really sucks. I hate that I feel like I’m not good enough sometimes. Why do I do this to myself? Why is there always a way to be “better?” Why can’t I be “good” the way I am?

At this point, the social standard set for both females and males are impossible to reach. Females are supposed to be thin, yet curvy.  They are expected to have perfect hair, perfect makeup, and perfect everything. Males are told to be muscular while holding the standard of perfect hair and a perfect jawline. The companies who made our clothing should not define who we are as people, such as Nike, Adidas, Coach, Vineyard Vines, Ralph Lauren Polo, and several others. How are we supposed to be an individual when everyone wants to be the same? How are we supposed to express ourselves if being “different” is frowned upon?

We’re always told to express individuality.  However, my question is why are we judged when we do so? Who decided what is acceptable and what is unacceptable in society? If we all looked and acted the same, would we truly be individuals?

Celebrities this day tend to be famous because they are what we call “goals.” It’s not their talent that matters anymore; it’s about how they look and how appealing they seem.  What if one of the best actresses/actors ever was turned down just because they looked “different” than what society expects from them? Why are these public figures okay with this?

To achieve some of the impossible standards set by society, people risk their lives. They become anorexic, bulimic, depressed, or even harm themselves because they can’t achieve the “it.” One should not be so hard on themselves, as it could lead to severe consequences.

I don’t like the fact that both myself and others are trying to change ourselves because we aren’t “perfect”. Why are we trying to fix something that isn’t broken?