Everyone leaves.

People move, people die and some people move on with life without you.

I know it sounds rather depressing but it’s true.  I always considered myself lucky. I never had any major characters in my life leave me up until this summer. Since that point in time, I have had to deal with 4 of the most important people in my life moving a combined total of 5,056  miles away from me. I’m not gonna sit here and lie: things have been completely different without them and though it sounds dramatic, everything in my life now has a different dynamic.

What I’m really trying to get at though is everyone leaves eventually, and we all have different ways we deal with this.

Do we move on with life?

Do we forget the times, and wash away our memories like watching sudsy water cleaning filthy car tires?

Do we choose to hang on, until it is too painful to bear and friendships are just simply better to be broken? Or do we keep the memories, and just look back on old pictures with a smile?

All these questions may sound like a defeatist attitude to have, but simply put, there are no good solutions.

There will always be a break, and the space between you and the people you love sometimes cannot be filled.

But, it is how we go about filling that gap that makes us the people who we are, who we’re meant to be.

At the end of the day, it is all you. It is the effort that you put into to others, and the way you make people feel around you.

And at times it may be hard, but sometimes you have to leave too.

You have to go to new places, see new adventures, and sometimes, you have to live your life and remove the toxic influences around you.

Like I said, at the end of the day, it’s all you. You have to choose.  

Do you start a new life?

Do you keep the people around you?

Or do you sift through your commitments and friendships like a pile of office papers?

None of these questions can be answered easily, and maybe things are different when you have the control and choose to leave instead of being left after all this time.

Maybe we’re all just hypocritical humans who only care about the well being of ourselves.

Maybe we’re stuck in a cycle meant for constant unhappiness, but maybe we’re meant to find happiness, even if at the end of the day it’s just a temporary distraction.

There are no easy answers, solutions or ways to cope. We simply just do.